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ash rub for a loved one
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January 22, 2015
10:54 pm
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March 20, 2014

Im not writting this for anyone to feel bad so dont feel like that please. On September 6th my wife and I had the worst news of finding out that our childs heart stopped beating in the womb at 27 weeks. It was the worst thing we have had to go through in our lives together. We have had two healthy girls born at home and everything was great. We had to have this one who we named Sage Sturgeon in the hospital due to the risk of infection. Everything is ok and we are moving on but it is still hard. The reason I brought this up is to talk about my modification I did on myself in memory of Sage. I decided to do something different because that is just me anyway. Ash rubbing was my option and I did it with the cremation ashes from sage that we got back. I was not sure how it was even going to work but I had to try it. Well it is done and it turned out great. I made three lines on my hand between my thumb and index finger with a skin marker symbolizing my third child. I then scalpled the lines some what deep in my hand and packed the ashes into the wounds. I was not sure if they would stay but they did and the scaring has a nice purple/grey tint to it. I feel like even though she is gone I have a part of her living within me and she is always keeping me on a straight path in life. This was one of the best ways I personally found to honor a loved one. I might have to do it again and if I had to correct anything it would be to take the ashes and powder it up more. I feel like that would most likely hold more pigment in the scar itself. Anyone deciding to do this should beware of sterilization before shoving ashes into your skin. I did not have a problem but I am sure you could if you are not careful. thanks to all

January 23, 2015
6:40 am
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January 7, 2011

Thank you very sharing. Sounds a powerful experience.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
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