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"you will not be promoted....."
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May 29, 2013
12:46 pm
san francisco, ca
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May 29, 2013

This has been an issue in my place of employment for a few months now….
Quote un-quote "you have all of the qualities and growth that we like to see you move up, how-ever you really need to take a step back and look at how people percive your lip-piercing" (my philtrum to be exact.
So let me run you through a quick history of my job. I am a counter manager/make-up artist for a cosmetic company that I will not name yet. I have been with them for over 5 years. I was hired five years ago with all of my modifications which are much more than just my tiny philtrum. I am about 30% + tattooed.. many of them in sight (never asked to cover) I have both ears stretched and cut to an inch, my conches where punched out at a 2 gauge … all visable. I was promoted to a bigger, higher volume counter three years ago. Well here I am 5+ years later, same company, and I am being told that I SHOULD remove my lip piercing if I want to move up to a higher position. Oh but I am "one of the most talented on the floor" and "I am very much in line for growth and sucess"….. but my philtrum…. how did they say it…. "is a distraction" … I mean I know that white gold and garnet is beautiful but man I didn't think it was going to make me sell more and do better make-up if i take it out. … Now my new hire.. who we hired with a philtrum piercing is being forced to take his gem-top off by higher management. I feel bad because I want to put my foot down and tell him he can wear his jewelry as my junior make-up artist and my full time associate, but I cannot go above department management and I don't want to boil water I just wamt everyone to play on the same team and accept people; I also feel like we are being discriminated against… and it isn't a vauge discrimination I just don't know what to do.

May 31, 2013
9:43 pm
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May 24, 2012

I want you to know you ARE making a difference by being yourself and continuing to wear your jewelry. I have no idea what I would do in this situation! Is there anyone you could ask?

Everyone has something to say about the Mona Lisa until you're standing in front of it speechless.
June 2, 2013
4:21 pm
Wenatchee, WA
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August 10, 2011

Personally, I would politely go up the chain of command and ask if there is a company policy that would prohibit you from advancing. If I found that there were no words set in stone that specifically said that you HAD to remove jewelry to advance in the company, then I would kindly and very politely raise a stink. There's nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. I wouldn't suggest putting yourself in a position to be fired or raise eyebrows with your co-workers, but there are tactful ways of addressing these situations without being confrontational.

June 9, 2013
6:18 am
san francisco, ca
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May 29, 2013

That is just the thing…. When I was hired with "brand" the dress code did not prohibit facial piercings nor ear jewelry nor visible tattooing. As time has passed the said "image standards" are tweaked to not be favorable of facial jewelry. My colorful skin doesn't seem to be an issue or the big holes in my ears, but that pretty little philtrum gem is "the last thing the client will remember" about me HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA and I have all the experience and room for advancement but nope… not gonna happen because i have a gemstone under my nose. I already nicely tuck my septum up on my own accord, but mainly because it is very easy to do… but really it is bumming me out. Surprised

June 30, 2013
1:38 pm
Orlando, FL
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May 22, 2013

Its bothersome that so many are still so blind. Your modifications do not affect your work ethic or performance therefore should be a non issue, call it what it is. Discrimination.

Damn the Man.

I do believe in spooks, I do believe in spooks. I do, I do, I do, I do believe in spooks, I do believe in spooks, I do, I do, I do, I do!
June 30, 2013
3:30 pm
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August 8, 2011

If in the Company Hand book there are no written rules regarding this then I would make a issue out of it but try the more polite way first. I got a new job recently that I was very careful on what piercings and uniqueness I displayed until I got a hold of the handbook and made sure I was 100% in the right. Now mind you there are no written laws at my company regarding Piercings, Tattoos or Colored Hair{Which when I am done letting mine grow back out I am fully capitalizing on} But I still feel its best to ease into it a bit rather then to make a huge production. Like with my piercings I initially was hired without most of them in{I am lucky and most can come out and I look unaltered} just because I really wanted the job{school bus driver and it pays rather well}.
So its down to the choice we all have to make in these regards. How much can you be you and still hold a job. For me even if I was to loose my piercings{all reject/ grow out what ever} I would be sad for a bit but I'm still me. Though our mods are an expression of ourselves I take them as that. Yes perhaps I will never fully be able to express myself to the world but that doesn't change who I am and my mental/spiritual side I do not think would suffer. Though I'm kinda a stubborn soul anyway, even as a kid I refused to bend on the things I believed in. And I will point out there is also many who feel the mods are steps towards furthering their spirit and clarifying it, for such a soul my advice is probably not so helpful.

"There is nothing quite so thrilling as treading in the darkness on a step that isn't there"
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