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July 22, 2012
1:37 am
thishme
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It never fails, everyday I get asked the same main things every day at work.

"Did that hurt"

"How did you do that"

"How long did it take you"

"What does it stand for"

(to name a few)

I'm sure you are all familiar. 

 

I try to answer every question the best I can in the most informative way. I don't mind it. If someone want's to know I'll pretty much teach them about it all. Of course it gets old after the 5th person ( When I work a 8 hour shift ) but still. They will either love it or hate it, I at least tried to educate them.

August 7, 2012
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matt h
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Did it hurt, how, why. Normally I'm glad to stop and explain any intelligent question with honest answers. Sure it annoys me but I try to make people feel comfortable in their own quest for knowledge and to assure them there isnt a crazy walking among them. I live in a small town so its not a good to piss anyone off. I've been stopped several times by people wanting my picture which is always fun of course I give a big smile and the go ahead. Easy to smile when you're laughing inside. The whole what about when you get older..
Bigger jewelry!

August 7, 2012
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Breanne Redin
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I often get "Why would you do that?" and "why do you want that?" and "do you think that looks good?" and of COURSE "Do you know how that's going to look when you're old?"

 

Yell

August 9, 2012
10:38 am
SasQuatch9585
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Cola,

I applaud your independence.  You're clearly not too worried about the opinion of others.

However, I would encourage you to try to explain the gauged ears to us whities.  Even though many of us may not be able to directly relate to African culture, we all have warrior heritage, no matter where we're from, and body modification is part of it, almost without fail.

And if you really want to stir up the pot, inform people that all humans have African heritage.  Archaeologists have uncovered plenty of physical evidence to show that humans first evolved in Kenya, and then spread out to cover the world from there.

Sometimes I wonder if I can say anything in less than a hundred words.
August 21, 2012
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lucastm
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So today is the first day back in college (GO APP STATE) and I have acquired a septum and re-acquired a lip ring over the summer.  In the last two hours, I have had countless 'friends' ask if I could please flip my septum up or take out the lip ring or just not look at them.  This is ridiculous.  I used to have many more facial piercings and I can't understand why my face is all of a sudden offensive. My own mother recently visited my house and asked me to flip my septum.  I responded with the 'my house, my rules' standard and it was accepted though not easily.  The stereotype needs to be changed.  I am not disgusting!!  Also, I am a 22 year old woman who is independent and stable, stop thinking that mods mean I'm broken.

August 21, 2012
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The thing I always get is,if movin ma glasses an people notice my bridge is "omg does tht go thru the bone?" mayb il just start sayin yes,yes it does :P
Also I have to septum piercins so sumtimes il swap the bak 1 out fr a septum moustache an people will either say oh does tht clip onto ur ring……..or what?is tht actually thru ur nose :S

IF NOT NOW,WHEN?
August 21, 2012
5:51 pm
KristenAtkinson0
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Lucastm, that completely surprises me. Personally, I wouldn't allow my "friends" to treat me that way, nor would I call those people friends. My friends accept me with all my flaws and unique traits. There is no reason for them not to. It shouldn't matter what you look like.

August 22, 2012
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KristenAtkinson0 said
Lucastm, that completely surprises me. Personally, I wouldn't allow my "friends" to treat me that way, nor would I call those people friends. My friends accept me with all my flaws and unique traits. There is no reason for them not to. It shouldn't matter what you look like.

Big +1

Let them know how you feel when this happens, and try and talk about it in a considerate way. Hopefully you can open some closed minds.

 

Iggy666 – I've had the one with the bridge plenty of times. I always explain the anatomy, but i also get the temptation to just say 'yes' sometimes!

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
August 22, 2012
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I went to a University and people were pretty mean.  My Mom cried when she saw my septum ring.  My solution was to turn the music up a little louder and keep on enjoying my life!!  The lack of distraction by all those "friends" will help you make straight A's and that is what is really important. 

I had almost forgotten the one about the bridge through the bone!!  I got that all the time. 

It is really so tempting to fuck with people!!!  Like when they ask, "Is that real?"  WTF can I say to that to avoid making me or the other person just seem dumb.  A smile is about the only thing I can do these days.

I wonder if in a university setting you would be well received to print a little 1/4 page pamphlet to pass out when people stare or snicker or ask questions.  I give out a business card size hand made card to people I would like to connect with more.  It has my first name and e-mail and phone number.  You could include some links to sites with information you like.  Printing something would avoid a long discussion and saying the same thing over and over.  We all know how tedious that can be!!

Everyone has something to say about the Mona Lisa until you're standing in front of it speechless.
August 22, 2012
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KristenAtkinson0
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I like the business card idea. If I had some of those, perhaps I wouldn't come off as such an annoyed bitch all the time when I have to answer the same questions over and over and over!

September 19, 2012
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ChrisBigunDouglass
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I was once told that I would burn in hell for my tattoos. This woman had her son at the grocery store, he noticed a pinup on my right arm with bare breasts. "MOM! Look he has boobs on his arm!" I over heard him say. I simply turned to see who they were and gave her a nod. Just a disgusted look on her face for a reply. I laughed her off like SO MANY others. Finally I make it to the register the wait was like 10 min but felt like a decade with her staring at the back of my head.

  Just as I reach for my money clip The lady behind me pipes up with "YOU ARE GOING TO HELLLL FOR THOSE TATTOOS!, and your goin to jail too!" I laughed at her untill I realized that there were two police officers standing at the end of the checkout lane now. Great this never goes to well.

   Turns out she had called 911 telling them I had "exposed" myself ( the bare breasts of my tattoo) to her and her son. The situation went spiraling out of control because the lady just started screaming that I am a pervert ect. The cops actually threatened to arrest her to get her to calm down. She explained to them how I had "exposed" myself and how that was a sin that needed to be atoned for.

  At this point the police pull me aside and I explain my side of the story. Im just a guy with tattoos at the grocery store. They walked just a few feet away to talk quietly. Next thing I know they are asking me if I would like to give the woman a piece of my mind rather than have them arrest her for impropper use of 911. I had a field day with that.

   My reply to her went something like this. Ma'am I believe the only reason you are bothered by your son seeing the tattoo on my arm is that now he now knows what breasts are really supposed to look like instead of the empty streatched out pillowcases you shoved in his face to feed him with.

  I was suprised. Not only did the cops let me have my say, they still gave her a court date. They patted me on the back and commented incredulously about the fact that i hadnt cussed once when I told her off.  This is the only example i have that actually ended with some vindication for me.Laugh

September 20, 2012
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@ChrisBigunDouglass – I just want to say that was an amazing story and pretty much made my morning.

September 21, 2012
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So, a woman was scared and offended by the way you look and called the police to help her, so you made fun of her breasts that she allegedly fed her babies with?  wow.

Everyone has something to say about the Mona Lisa until you're standing in front of it speechless.
September 21, 2012
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amber visions
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I think the one I get the most is…

"why would you do that to your pretty face?" and "What are you going to do when you're older?"

 

I respond to the first one in the usual way of "this is how i feel comfortable in my skin. you got (insert whatever hair dye, veneers, boobs, etc) done and you feel better and more comfortable in your skin, this is how i did mine!"

 

and the second…

 

"ill be old with a really awesome sense of self and tattoos and piercings"

 

i dont think people are expecting you to not feel guilted by their questions, which is sad all on their own.

September 21, 2012
4:45 pm
ChrisBigunDouglass
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@Vampyrmage I felt I should share it Im glad it made your day man, I sure was glad I didnt go to jail that night.

@Sommerset The woman accused me of Exposing myself in public to children, she reported that to the police. I was not threatening in any manner. I was in line at the grocery store waiting to pay for my order. Just that nothing more. She was not in fear she was sitting on her high horse trying to get me thrown in jail because I have art on my arm that involves bare breasts. TRYIN TO HAVE ME ARRESTED FOR MY TATTOO. Am I not supposed to light her up? I am not of that sort. I stand up for myself an will not allow "society" to judge me nor will I allow any individule to voice any oppinion without retort. If someone wants to share their oppinion of me then I have the right to share my oppinion of them do I not? 

September 22, 2012
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amber vision – nice to see you back!

ChrisBigunDouglass – I can understand feeling angry, that woman's reaction was ridiculous and spiteful. Doing something spiteful back seems a shame though. I wonder how she would have felt if you had explained that you did not intend to shock of offend, perhaps what the tattoo meant to you, and demonstrated what a nice well adjusted person you were? 

I wonder what her son made of the situation? (Although i accept he probably has bigger problems, with a parent like that!).

 

I had a member of staff work on the ward from another pat of the hospital say to me 'You're on the internet aren't you?' . I said well most people are, what specifically do you mean, and he replied 'You're the leader of some sect aren't you?'. I couldn't help but laugh, but tried to explain. I figure he'd not seen anything but heard Chinese whispers.

I really should become the leader of my own sect though…..Cool

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
September 22, 2012
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Oakbear said 
I really should become the leader of my own sect though…..Cool

 

I would join LOL!  Smile

September 22, 2012
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This isn't a what people say story so much as a how people react story.  I was on the skytrain the other day traveling to meet my partner.  I got on the skytrain and, as there were no completely empty seats, sat down beside an elderly male, took out my cellphone and started playing on it, as I normally do when traveling.  I had my headphones on and a metal shirt which is pretty much standard for me when I leave my place.  It took about a minute for the individual to notice me sitting beside him, complete with dreads, subdermal implants, piercings, tattoos, ect.  Once noticed, he tapped me on the shoulder so I would notice him and let him move, proceeded to almost run away from me and sit back down several seats behind me.  This is the first time I have ever had someone almost literally run away from me.  The entire incident I mostly just found amusing.

 

In generally, thus summer I have realized just how much attention the subdermal ribs in my arm attract.  I have been amazing time and time again just how many people notice them and ask questions about them.  Questions tend to range from outright curiosity and admiration, to shock and horror.  Of course the 'does it hurt' comes up the most often usually followed by how did they do it. 

 

For those who have plans to get extremely visible work, especially if its considered to be 'extreme' work by the general public, all I can say is to be sure you're OK with the attention because its something that will have to be gotten used to very quickly.  The attention is not always positive and, in my experience anyway, you'll get the same few questions over and over and over again. 

February 2, 2017
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Ald topic but.. A few months ago, I came across one of my favorite pictures from my teenage years. Looking back on those photos made me miss my rainbow-hued hair. A few months ago, I came across one of my favorite pictures from my teenage years. Back in the day, I used to be cool. Looking back on those photos made me miss my rainbow-hued hair I wanted to see how everyone in my life reacted to my bright-pink hair, I found cool idea in newaylook.com . Would my husband love it? I was slightly nervous about my big transformation, but more than anything, I was excited. I have more confidence in my decisions, and I certainly have more body confidence than I did as a teen.
And at last Instead of nasty comments, everyone has been telling me how great I look

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