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June 12, 2012
9:22 am
Sommersett
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Lets share some of the things people say to you or ask about your mods, and how you respond.

 

People say to me:  How did they do that?  They ask this about my ear lobes.

I say:  "THEY" didn't DO it to me… this is how I think I'm suppose to look, and I did all my own stretches.  I then explain how you start with one tiny earring, then insert 2, 3, 4, 5, then go to a shop with professional body jewelry and buy a bigger piece.  Yadda yadda. 

 

This is just one example…. I, like all of us, have been asked thousands of questions.  Some are really funny!!   I love the question, "Is that real."  I always want to say, "BOO… I'm an apparition." 

Everyone has something to say about the Mona Lisa until you're standing in front of it speechless.
June 12, 2012
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I think the most common question I get about my piercings is, "Did that hurt?"

I have five piercings in my lobes, two in my left conch, and dual labrets.  I tell them the labrets hurt a little, and the cartilage hurt a little more, but the lobes were easy.  Just a little pinch.

Then they usually ask about the stretches in my lobes.  The third hole is a 10g, the second is a 6g, and the first hole is currently at about 19/32".  People seem to think you get pierced with solid needle and they stretch it all at once.

I explain that all my lobe piercings started at 10g, as I was never pierced before.  I explain the hollow needle, and the stretching process.

 

I only have two other visible mods.  A tattoo down the back of my left arm, and a brand which is now barely visible on my right forearm.

The tattoo is Latin, so the question I get most often is, "What does that say?"

FIDES NON CONIECTO means, "Trust not conjecture".  Loosely translated, "Don't trust assumptions".

The most common question about the brand is whether it hurt, but I explain that the TCU technique kills nerves so quickly that you only feel a quick pinprick of heat and then the nerve is destroyed, so it actually feels a bit like getting tattooed by a needle of fire, (and about the same pain level as a tattoo) rather than a constant burn.  Comparatively much easier to endure than other branding techniques.

The brand is a fish with legs.  The Darwin fish is commonly mistaken for the Jesus fish, but I point out the legs.  People are usually smiling when the believe it's a Jesus fish.  Then their face turns either to puzzlement, or anger when I point out the legs.

I just stay calm and explain my own ethical standards, and that I'm not an evil person.  Sometimes this works and sometimes not, but what else can one do?

Sometimes I wonder if I can say anything in less than a hundred words.
June 12, 2012
1:26 pm
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i always get the "does that hurt" to witch i respond "your gonna have to be more specific i have 40 piercings and you didn't even point" lately they've been focusing on my nostrils witch are a 00g and in detail I've been explaining the procedure and occasionally removing the jewelry witch usually gets some awesome reactions and the occasional scream I've gotten a lot of the "did you trip and fall in a tackle box" witch I've heard so many times it just kinda annoys me that they couldn't come up with something better  i also   get a lot of weird looks when i get asked how many tats i have to witch i always reply"i have 1 tattoo im just still working on it" they usually look confused til i point out its gonna start on my head and finish on my toes(witch i think the toes where my most painful tattoo) 

June 12, 2012
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Haha I love that, you've got to point at your 40 different piercings.  Of course, I get the 'did it hurt' question a lot as well.  I've got a few rather unusual pieces, however, so its a little easier to pin down what they might be referring too.  Usually its either my subdermal arm spines, my subdermal horns or, a little more rarely now days, my nostrils which are a 2 gauge.  I don't have as many piercings as I used to have so I don't get the tackle box type comments as much anymore, though that could be partly because I've got more unusual pieces than piercings now days, compared to what I used to have as well.  I rather enjoy the reactions of people when I explain how my implants were put in there or how my tongue got split.  There's a real variety of people who are genuinely fascinated and those who seem to be a little horrified by the whole concept.

June 12, 2012
3:29 pm
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i think alot of the time its there curiosity that brings em to me but my being overly excited to explain every last detail that horrifies em Smile

June 12, 2012
3:41 pm
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I have 16 piercings all together. Most of them are hidden. As a piercer I've been asked millions of times why my lobes are massive (only stretched to 6g). or why i don't have a bunch of  piercings ( i have two in my left nostril, and 5 between both ears). My reply is always "one because, the mods that i have chosen have been chosen for specific reason either an astethical one, or a symbolic one, and two because I've been in the industry long enough to know the benefits and drawbacks of most piercings, lstly i reply that just because they can't see them doesn't mean i don't have more.

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June 12, 2012
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strommer, that made me laugh.  Sometimes I like to go into a long winded tangent about perspective on life in general when I get the classic "did that hurt."  I had a vertical bridge for about 3 years and people liked to ask, "is that in there?"  I never had a clue what they really wanted to know.  I always said YES.  People also try to touch me on a regular basis… all different kinds of people too.  It is never okay with me.  Do people act like this to you guys?  I wonder if it's because I'm a woman…. still, not okay.

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June 12, 2012
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i get people with grabbie hands all the time its like if you where at a art museum you wouldn't pull the painting off the wall and start man handling it what makes you think it ok to grab a complete stranger just cause i have mods 

June 13, 2012
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I don't usually mind people asking to touch because I have the choice to allow it or not.  Piercings I don't like grabby hands on, but my subdermal implants people always want to touch and I don't tend to worry about that.  However, I'm not a big fan of people trying to touch without first asking.  That's just rude and how do they know if something is still healing or not?

June 13, 2012
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Ive got the typical "didn't that hurt" ,"why would you want to do that " and, my personal favorite, "what are you going to do when you get old and they get all saggy" (referring to my 1 1/8in lobes). It's always the same answers "some of it hurt,but obviously nothing too unbearable, "why did you want to *put fingernail polish on * go tanning last night *fix your hair a certain way *get fake breasts *etc" and then , again my personal favorite, "I'm going to buy bigger jewelry and be the most bad ass grandpa in the town". I don't have any issues with answering peoples questions if its them being curious, its when people ask me in a condescending or rude fashion that I turn into an ass.

"Body modifications say a lot about ourselves, it says even more about those who surround us"
June 13, 2012
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The biggest thing I used to get was 'oh my god can i touch it?'  which was in reference to my dermal anchors below my collar bone.  Like, why would it be okay to poke a surface piercing with your gross unclean hands when I don't even know you? No.

That and people asking me how I can talk with a tongue ring.  I've had it so long that I seriously can't talk without it.

I am fine with my friends asking me things.  (A lot of them are actually grossed out by it.) When it comes to strangers, I'd like to get your name before you go touching my metal or asking really personal things. Thanks.

June 13, 2012
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lucastm said
 

That and people asking me how I can talk with a tongue ring. 

 

i get people asking me how i eat with my lip rings and i always reply with "i put the food in my mouth and then chew a bit and then swallow"    but ive always felt that dumb questions deserve dumb answers 

 

June 13, 2012
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strommer said

lucastm said
 

That and people asking me how I can talk with a tongue ring. 

 

i get people asking me how i eat with my lip rings and i always reply with "i put the food in my mouth and then chew a bit and then swallow"    but ive always felt that dumb questions deserve dumb answers 

 

hahahahaha. agreed.

June 13, 2012
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Another thing people say a lot occurred to me.  People are forever telling me "But you're such a beautiful young lady without those piercings." (when I have them out for something.)  and "All that metal just hides your pretty face."

 

Does anyone else get that?

I mean, here we go – intersectionality of mod culture and gender construction. Ugh.

June 13, 2012
11:36 pm
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That's one of the more irritating ones I get at times, lucastm

June 14, 2012
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my gf gets that a lot

June 14, 2012
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QUESTION : How would they know what you look like without all of your beautiful jewelry? :)

- Kevin Cook Proudly modified since 1983
June 14, 2012
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I was on a first date once with a chick and I was talking about some of the piercings I wanted to get in the future.  At the time I already had a couple rings in both ears, but that was about it.

I told her I wanted dual labrets, a bridge piercing, and maybe a septum.  She told me I already had a handsome face, so why would I want to do that to myself.  She also said she felt it would distract from my looks.

I told her I wanted to do it because when I looked in the mirror and imagined how the jewelry would look it made me feel good.

To sum it up, no second date.

Sometimes I wonder if I can say anything in less than a hundred words.
June 14, 2012
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SasQuatch9585 said

To sum it up, no second date.

Just remember the words of Dr Dre and Snoop Dogg, "bitches ain't shit…"

"Body modifications say a lot about ourselves, it says even more about those who surround us"
June 14, 2012
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So oddly enough i was at the bar having a cocktail after work with a few friends and an older gentleman comes up to me and says "What the hell is wrong with you all that shit on your body, don't you ever want a job, i'm sure your parents are real proud of you." I simply smiles and replied "Well sir i'm actually a very productive member of society, many of my tattoos were obtained while serving in the united military where i protected your right to call refer to them as shit, not i mention I have a very productive job as well, i help people develop their own spirituality, freedom, and expression as a professional piercing artist. As for my parents they are both very proud and supportive of my life style, and all though they do not quite agree with my modifications they encourage my individuality, and support my own choices and spiritualism. However sir i do appreciate your opinion, as you are entitled to it. I could only hope that in expressing your distaste for my "shit" it has done what it was meant to do allow me a way to enlighten others through their own perception. You have enlightened me with your expressions and i thank you for it, as well as i thank my mods because they made this interaction possible. Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to return to my friends and my drink. Have a great night sir." 

 

The end result he sat slack jawed for a minute, walked off to the other side of the bar, and told the bar tender to get a drink for me and all my friends on him.

Jimmy "English" Lesniewski
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