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School doesn't allow piercings, what should I do?
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November 12, 2011
6:00 pm
Brandybryan97
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Hi,

I am getting in alot of trouble for my piercings at school and when I told my principal about my religion, he said that I needed a letter from the church saying that piercings are a "requirement" to be a member of this church. I tried explaining that its not a requirement but its what I believe in. I even printed out the mission statement, vision statement, and the statement of faith and gave it to him. But he won't let me. Any sugestions?

 

Thanks :)

November 12, 2011
6:27 pm
Chris Carter
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Good communication is key. I think you did the right thing by printing out some of the site's pages and providing them. You also might want to go to this site, https://www.corporations.state.pa.us/corp/soskb/cSearch.asp.

Have you talked with your parent(s) about this? Do you have their support? Have they spoken with the principal on your behalf? Did the principal say why, exactly, he would not accomodate you? Just a few questions that come to mind. 

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November 12, 2011
10:43 pm
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Yes I have talked to my mom about it and she understands where I am coming and that this is very important to me. She completely supports me. She talked to the principal on the phone and he was really rude and kept cutting her off (hes not very nice). He said that I need a letter from the church saying that its a "requirement" to have piercings, or else I will keep getting suspended. I really don't know what to do…

November 13, 2011
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Chris' advice seems spot on.

It's also good that your Mom is on side. May i suggest you get the items Chris recommends and have your Mom arrange a meeting face to face with the Principle?

Calm, reasonable communication and fair compromise can go a long way. If he's expecting an arguement he is likely to be defensive and unreasonable. Be tolerant and understanding and you have a much better chance of a resolution.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
November 13, 2011
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Yes, I guess thats all i really can do. Thanks :)

November 15, 2011
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I believe that if a nonbiased person were to read the information on this site, they would understand that, yes, body modification is essential to our spiritual heath and is requisite for us to feel complete in both physical and spiritual ways. The nonbiased person may not agree with it our beliefs, but I think they are pretty straightforward. For example:

In the CoBM's Statement of Faither it reads, "We believe it is our right to explore our world, both physical and supernatural, through spiritual body modification."

Part of the Mission Statement reads, "As members of the Church of Body Modification, we aim to practice our body modification rituals with purpose, to unify our mind, body, and soul, and to connect with our higher power."

And, from the FAQ, "Does the Church believe that body modification is essential to spiritual health?
It is our belief that body modification is one of the safest and most societal responsible ways to stay spiritually healthy and whole. We accept the possibility that there are other means to this end, but for us, this is our chosen method."

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November 16, 2011
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Yes, I tried to explain but he wouldn't give me the time of day. I am going to print out a bunch of info and try talking to him again.

November 16, 2011
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Make an appointment. Principles are busy people.

I'd also advise you arrange to bring your Mom for the appointment. Make him see you are serious. He may find it harder to dismiss an adult, especially when it's face to face.

Are there any parent liason officers, advocacy service or chaplains? They may all be useful contact points or mediators.

 

The only other advice i have is be prepared to compromise. Maybe wear retainers or less obvious jewellery. There are 2 notable legal cases in this area. One successful, one not. Guess which one was prepared to compromise on jewellery?

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