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July 8, 2012
4:15 pm
ColaChampagne
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Ok Ok Ok. This has not really a lot to do with body modification, then sort of the process on achieving it, in a way.

A little over 2 weeks ago I placed an order for a stretching kit online, a really good one that costs about 50 bucks.

I chose sending concealed cash as a payment option because I had just opened a savings and checking account and I didn't get my official debt card and I was just confused (fail#1)

I completely forgot I was supposed to put a stamp on the letter before I put it in the mailbox (fail#2)

The envelope I used was from city hall and it had the seal on it, which I crossed out (fail?)

It's been over 2 weeks, and I've had no email confirmation that my order has been processed or sent out even though about a week ago i emailed the the founder of the company, and he said he would send me an email when he got the payment after he checked his P.O box on Monday or Tuesday. Well it's been an additional week without any email and I'm pretty sure he didn't get the payment. the question is now:

What the hell do I do?

I did some research and i found out that if a letter doesn't have a stamp on it, then it's usually returned to the original sender, but I have not received it yet.

So do I go to the post office? Or did I just get robbed or something?

I'm never doing this again >_<

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July 9, 2012
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lol went to the post office.

Turns out I have been robbed.

Yay!

whatever I found a stretching kit online that was much cheaper. An it will be here by Thursday.

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July 10, 2012
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Sorry to hear about that, i feared as much from your first post.

Maybe email the company again, just to check.

 

I'm not entirely sure about 'stretching kits' tbh. Nothing wrorg in theory, but the ones i have seen have been low quality and unsuitable materials. It's also not advisable to use tapers after a point, and the kits i've seen go up to as much as 18mm.

A good set of tapers, lube and suitable jewellery is all you need really. That and lots of patience! Good luck with your stretching journey, and remember, go as slow as you think you need to, then go slower!

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
July 10, 2012
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Sorry to hear about your lost funds … did you have the Post Office check the dead letter office?

To be honest .. I have spent over $100K online and have only lost money a couple of times

Advice I can give:

Use eBay and or PayPal when possible as BOTH have guarantees that you will receive the expected goods

Get a credit card and use it exclusively for online purchases … as it will likely need to be cancelled and reissued … often ( I am now up to as many as 4 times a year) … as credit card frauld is rampant

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July 10, 2012
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What do you feel like you need a stretching kit for? 

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July 10, 2012
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It's an ear stretching kit that goes up to 0 gauge and it comes with tapers and plugs (I plan on using the taping method after that)

I emailed the company (kings body jewelry) on either Saturday or Sunday, no response yet.

I actually bought another stretching kit on ebay, made with the same materials (316L stainless steel, high quality according to the kings body jewelry website) for much less that what I paid on the kings body jewelry website, so either way I'm still getting one.

This was mostly my fault,

My intuition told me not to do it, hell every bit energy I have was telling me not to do it. I was highly misinformed, blegh.

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July 10, 2012
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Don't blame yourself too much … everyone (nearly) makes this kind of mistake

Recently .. I lost a $20 bill that I had in my wallet for a wedding present … I still have no idea where it went … as I had not gone anywhere between the time that I last saw it .. and the time that I discovered it missing … even at my age .. I seem to be able to lose money :)

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July 10, 2012
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My lobes are at 1 inch.   I am here to support you and encourage you.  I would not use a taper on ear lobes.  I know "all roads lead to Rome" and although we may end up in the same place with our mods, our methods are different.  Why don't you just try using good lube and slipping the next size in?  I am glad you are here and whatever you decide, I am here to listen. (or read, you know)

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July 10, 2012
10:28 pm
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Sommersett said
  Why don't you just try using good lube and slipping the next size in? 

 

 

Ummmmm because I don't want to destroy my ears? Confused

I did my research, hours of it. I know what I need to do for myself.

I hope your support doesn't come with a lot of misinformation, in that case you can keep it. Confused

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July 11, 2012
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Sommersett's advice is good. Suitable jewellery should slip in when you're ready to stretch if you wait the right amount of time. I think she's owed an apology.

I believe there is a place for tapers, but there's a much higher chance of causing an issue if you aren't experienced in their use, especially stretching too fast.

It's well worth remembering that just because a shop says something is needed or suitable, doesn't mean that's true.

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July 11, 2012
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Sooooo what your saying is:

Dead stretching with lube is better

than doing a gradual slower taper stretch at lower gauges…

Despite the fact that all the hours of videos I have watched have said otherwise.

So the people that I watched that suffered from tearing, thinning of ears, and blowouts from dead stretching are just wrong? oh ok I'm sorry.

Any advice on what brand of silicone plugs I should use to dead stretch my ears when I wait the right amount of time?

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July 11, 2012
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There's no need for sarcasm, especially as i feel those trying to help you are likely to have much more experience. I can't vouch for all the videos you've seen, but i know there is a wide range of advice out there, some of it good, some terrible.

My lobes are 2" and healthy, as they have been for around 3 years now. It took me years to get them that way.

 

I'm not saying never use tapers, but equally it is not necessarily the best method.

The key is slow. People who mess their ears up almost invariably went too fast, even if they claim otherwise.

Tapers can run the risk of making faster or larger stretches obtainable, even feeling ok, but causing trauma. That can lead people to stretch too fast.

Simply waiting and testing the next size for small jumps, say from 2.4-3.2mm, or 3.2 to 4mm is probably safer if you are inexperienced. If you try the next size with no force and it doesn't fit, wait. It's much easier to force a fistula out with a taper and not realise. A 10mm taper is too big to be using on lobes. People sell them because they make money.

Often tapers are poor quality or badly shaped and can taper too fast. If you're sure of what shape they should be, how to clean them, and how to rate taper quality (not just labelled 316l) then great, if not then you run the risk of causing problems.

Problems with dead stretching occur when people get impatient, force it or use inappropriate jewelry. If it is done correctly in sensible jumps there's no problem.

So in essence either way is fine by me, IF you do it right, and GO SLOW!

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July 14, 2012
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Personally i think you were robbed from the start. A stretching kit is crap. if you really want to stretch your ears up the best and safest way to do it is slowly with increasing gauges size, and weight. if you want it fast i recommend repiercing at a larger gauge, or scalpeling both of with can be provided by a qualified piercer. stretching to fast can lead to a slew of troubles.

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July 14, 2012
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HAHAHAH jokes on me!

Turns out the money did make it there after all. And I end up with 2 stretching kits, which is bad but good at the same time. Now I can stretch more piercings that I planned on doing.

My lobe and tragus are now a 14 gauge and my septum is now a 12 gauge.

It was rather easy, very very easy, not really any resistance, despite the face that it took a little longer for my ear lobes than my tragus (then again I didn't get my tragus pierced with a gun, so that could be why.) But yea everything went really well, and I'm very happy :D

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July 14, 2012
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Cool .. glad it worked out for you :)

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July 15, 2012
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Glad you didn't lose your money!

Good luck with your journey.

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