Micro dermal | General Discussion | Forum
January 16, 2013
I am a body piercer & ive been perfecting my technique of doing micro dermals using a dermal punch.
I did a micro dermal on myself & was really proud of myself as I got it to sit really flat & got the positioning right for my anatomy,so being proud of what Id done I wanted to share the below picture.I posted it in a few pro groups & I couldnt believe the abuse I got from one individual particularly in one pro group.
It all came done to the fact that in the uk,micro dermals are called micro dermals & in the u.s they are called surface anchors.
The thing is I was verbally abused,told I was stupid,told that I sounded untrained etc etc just because we in the uk call them micro dermals.
My point is that different doesnt equal wrong! that would be like saying because certain words are spelt differently in the u.s to the uk,all americans are iliterate which they clearly arnt & it would be a horrible thing to say.
It sickens & sadens me that a pro piercer friends it acceptable to attack another pro just because of something simple like this.Its these people that will kill the industry with attitudes like this!
Anyway,I hope you all enjoy my picture x
I'm not seeing a picture, but would love to.
I agree with your point, but I am not surprised. Most people in the industry are probably not making a spiritual experience out of it. In fact, I think those of us who do are a minority in the Body Mod community in general (though perhaps this is just my impression of it).
My advice is not to take it personally. This attack is the only the expression of the ego and insecurities of the person who attacked you. When people feel bad about themselves they commonly try to make others feel bad, and their opinion of you is about 99% themselves and 1% you. Even when a person honestly makes a mistake, there are much better ways of handling it.
People look at the world and but do not see it for what it is. We see certain facts, but then we pile on assumptions until the facts are lost in a deluge of guessing and prejudice. And where does all that guessing and prejudice come from? From one's own past. In this way, we impose our own history on our present, and onto others.
So, most of what we see when we look at others is a reflection of ourselves. For example, this person who attacked you is expressing their own self-doubt and insecurity. Their argument is based on splitting hairs and they're clearly ignorant of the vast number of things for which we Americans have different words from the Brits.
This reminds me of a piece of wisdom I came across in conversation with a Latino woman once. She told me about the wisdom of her ancestors, and the Four Agreements of the Toltec people, who are the ancestors of the Ancient Aztecs, who are the ancestors of the Native American Tribes who inhabit Mexico. These four agreements struck me because I had already come to see the world in this way through my own experiences.
They're not too long, so I'll go ahead and write them out here along with this link to a website where you can learn more about the subject if you like.
Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dreams. When you're immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.
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