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Member of CoBM but NOT heavily modded? thoughts?
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December 8, 2011
10:54 am
Breanne Redin
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So I've found that, whenever I mention CoBM, people look at me like I'm lying. I have 3 basic ear lobe piercings and 1 tattoo.

I guess I'm not "modded" enough for this?

I also dont find myself too interested in suspensions, though perhaps if it were a little more accessible to me I'd hcange my mind. Part of me feels like i HAVE To enjoy these things to be here, but then I remember, as long as I find spirituality in my control over my own body (Mods or otherwise) that is all that matters.

What do you all think?

do you HAVE to be heavily modded?

What are other, less permanent things that you consider to still be a part of practicing at CoBM? I've read somewhere about fasting, and I always considered hair dye, though common, to be a similar thing. I've always had a better appreciation than others over how wonderful and change inspiring a new hair style or hair color can be.

 

Thanks! :)

December 8, 2011
11:03 am
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I only have a minute to reply but I really wanted to tell you that you completely belong here. No, you do not have to be heavily modified. Also, there is no single type of modification that is required to me a member. For example, not all members may be interested in body suspension, or branding, or any other single type of modification.. and that's okay.
I'm sure others will share their opinion as well and I'm pretty sure it will be in the same vein as what I wrote.

Church of Body Modification, President

December 8, 2011
12:14 pm
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I thinkit has more to do with what your mods mean to you than how many or how "extreme" your mods are.  If modification has an important spiritual meaning to you then I think that's sufficient for being a member.  I know I would be the last person to try to shackle you to liking or not liking something for the sake of inclusion.  If it feels right to you to be part of The Church of Body Modification, then that should be all that really matters.

December 8, 2011
3:35 pm
DutchessOfNill
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I think you should kindly remind people who may question your affiliation with CoBM that your physical appearance has nothing to do with your spiritual being/beliefs.

 

What you choose to do with your body in terms of modification, in my opinion, has no bearing on weather or not you should be a member. Instead, I think it is how you have identified with spirituality through your modifications that truely matters.  That alone, to me, is all you have to know to assure yourself that you belong here just as much as anyone else who may be more heavily modified.

December 8, 2011
10:17 pm
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I find myself agreed with Mage. It isn't how many mods you have but what they mean to you. I am not heavily modded myself due to work but it is what each of my modifications mean to me. Ignore those who judge you and just do you.

"People living deeply have no fear of death." – Anais Nin
December 9, 2011
3:41 am
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i also agree with everyone else especialy since geting mods is a personal thing if your geting a mod only because someone else thinks you should its the wrong reason every one ive ever got has been for me and no one else and has its own reason behind it i have ocasionaly asked peoples opinion on what they think about a mod i might be interested in but even if they say it sounds like a bad idea or that its stupid it still my final say so dont question your beliefs because someone else doesnt understand or looks down on you for it cause there yours to believe in not them also there are quite a few mods that are less permenent like corseting (on a mild level of course) and i do think hair dye as well as certain hair styles are a form of body modification even make up on a small scale is body modification as well as working out(weight lifting ,body building) although they dont get put in that category that often cause there a more exceptable and more common act so keep up the faith no matter what anyone says its your choice

December 9, 2011
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I don't know if i can add much to the above comments, but it's really about the significance. There are plenty of people with heavy mods who never give a thought to how it may impact or interact with their spirituality. I find it a bit sad, as they've come so close to seeing the world in a new way, but it's their journey.

I have respect for someone who can hold onto their beliefs with a few important mods and not feel the need to prove themselves outwardly to others.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
December 25, 2011
2:38 pm
Reverend Venus Envy
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This is my first post. I am so glad to have found this topic. I am grateful for the acceptance shown here on this post. I myself have 4 large tattoos and 31 piercings and want to be branded, BUT I think that body modification is an expression that should not be judged by others. It is a deeply personal journey and often outsiders feel compelled to give their unsolicited opinions. Some feel that being heavily modded means they are "better or tougher" and that is a completely horrible reason to site as the inspiration for transformation. My mods are strictly for ME. Not for what others might think (positive or negative). It is good to see others with the same philosopny. It seems to be quite homey here!

December 27, 2011
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welcome Rev, sorry to be quiet for so long, but this semester had me BUSY!!!

 

Im not that modded—but I think as long as we support and and understand each other, we are in the same family. from the heavy heavy mods to the beginning steps, we are part of something amazing, personal, spiritual and epic. we are part of a tribe!

yes, I actually think that way, but I had a lot of caffeine this morning. feeling a bit expressive!!!

cheers,
gb.

January 12, 2012
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I'm not modded really at all. I have one tat that I'm not overly proud of other than size and placement. What I'm about is suspending, it's amazing! The most peaceful and calming thing I've ever found in my life. Along with flesh pulls, hooks just make life better.

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January 21, 2012
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I don't have many mods, but I do want more mods.
But I'm not in a rush. I see my mods as a path I take, a path in which I grow.
When I'll be older and I'll have more mods I won't be the same person as I am now.
It's a travel, a journey which changes me, on the outside but also in my mind and spirit.
I do a mod update when I'm ready, when the time feels right. From time to time. And that's the way I grow. 

- Free Mind,  Free Body.
March 8, 2012
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You don't have to wear the biggest cross to be considered a christian. :).

 

When I joined COBM, I was not heavily modded and, in fact, am only beginning to become heavily modded in the past couple of months and the months ahead of me. You belong.

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March 11, 2012
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KristenAtkinson0
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This is what I love about this place. It doesn't matter, everyone belongs.

I'm not heavily modified, either.

 

And yes, I do believe that something as simple and common as hair dye is body modification. A haircut can change your whole outlook on life, at least in my experience.

April 3, 2012
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jimmyenglish
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I realize I'm a new member but I feel that it your belief that carries not the appearance presented to those outside or even inside of it. If you find spirituality in your mods then it is there. I have been piercing for years and have seen both heavily modded artist and artists with no mods at all. Does that mean they are not a tattoo artist, or not a piercer? Because some one does not wear a crucifix does that make the not Christian? Take stock in who you are, and not what others perceive you to be.

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April 4, 2012
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I believe you don't have to be heavily modded to be a member. I have one tattoo, several peircings and my ears gauged. I have been a member since last year and I feel better knowing that there are other people out there who feel the same way I do about being modded. I have had similar experiences when I mention the Church of Body Modification to my friends and family but I am so thankful I have found a place where multiple religions can come together for the main goal of finding spirituality when you come to love yourself by making yourself a better person, and loving and accepting others for their own personal beliefs and ways. In my experiences I can change my mood for the better just by doing the most simple things like dying my hair or getting into a new form of modification I haven't thought of or tried yet. :)

April 4, 2012
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Yeah…what they said.   Smile

You're quite welcome here.  Make yourself at home.

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April 4, 2012
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miss monster its not called gauged ears the proper term is stretched lobe a gauge is a form of measurement Wink 

April 5, 2012
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Thank you, Strommer. That's my one "pet peeve". They can make me cringe sometimes and the looks on my face when people use such terms is often unavoidable, unfortunately. That actually happened today.

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April 20, 2012
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UnholyResonance
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strommer said
miss monster its not called gauged ears the proper term is stretched lobe a gauge is a form of measurement Wink 

Jamesryan said
Thank you, Strommer. That's my one "pet peeve". They can make me cringe sometimes and the looks on my face when people use such terms is often unavoidable, unfortunately. That actually happened today.

Definitely one of my bigger pet peeves too. xD

 

But I don't think people need to be heavily modified to find beauty and spiritualism in Body Modification.

I'm not heavil Modifed.

I have 2 tattoos, 6 facial piercings, my left lobe is stretched to 1 1/8in and right lobe is stretched to a 00.

I just find it beatiful and fascinating as well as this group of people are quite amazing.

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May 7, 2012
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I have seven piercings, nothing in them, no tattoos. I consider my modifications to be my scars, earned from a life hard fought, veneers, obtained after a thoroughly delightful mugging, and that I enjoy my hair with some length to it.

KristenAtkinson0 said

And yes, I do believe that something as simple and common as hair dye is body modification. A haircut can change your whole outlook on life, at least in my experience.

This, all day long.

Once individuals define "modification" for themselves, I feel that many more people would consider themselves potential members of our church. Going a step further, I'm quite confident that I could make a cogent argument for a regular exercise routine being as much a modification of the body as subdermal implants. In that, some people undergo a daily, life-long mod process.

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