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July 14, 2012
2:12 pm
ColaChampagne
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Just felt like starting a discussion, and I was curious about the responses of other people, hopefully this topic hasn't been started before.

 

During your journey on the enhancement of your body, what have you learned along the way? It can be anything good or bad, easy way, or the hard way, just tell em what you learned, and who know i may learn something from this. I'll start off from what I remember so far:

 

Piercing gun is the unholy DEVIL! (Wish I could have known this 2 years ago, before I want to the little piercing crap place in downtown to get my ears shot up with blunt bullets, but most of them are gone now, not on purpose… and I'm actually planning on retiring my second lobe and getting my third lobe re-pierced, it it loaded with scar tissue and feels so tough because of it, and i want to stretch it in the future, and i know the bulk of that scar tissue will get in the way)

 

Never underestimate the convenience of a concave taper (learned that last night, I had to try jewelry transfer like 3 times before I found my own way to get it right xD)

 

sterling silver is the DEVIL( still can't get that green crap out of my ears :/)

 

Patience (I think you get it.)

 

So yea this is an example of how you do it…AND I WANT STORIES. So it makes your lesson make more sense and give it legitimacy.

Have at it! Kiss

We are all born a blank canvas, physically and mentally, It is up to us to decorate our mind and body.
July 14, 2012
5:21 pm
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I have learned to accept and even embrace attention received.  I used to try to fade into the background and hated any attention I was paid at all by people I didn't know on a personal level.  Now, through modification, I have increased my personal levels of self confidence exponentially and not only do I not mind (most of) the attention given me, but I actually embrace it.  

 

Acceptance of my body as something equally important as my mind.  My body used to be something that simply was; a physical shell inherited by random chance.  Through modification I have come to embrace my body as something that is very much a part of myself.  

 

Persistence through adversity.  Most modifications involve some level of pain and it is quite the learning experience to work through the pain in order to achieve something positive.

July 14, 2012
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I actually forgot to add something and it just popped in my head.

Modifying my body has taught me to be less ignorant..especially in regards with plastic surgery. I used to think that people who got plastic surgery were just a bunch of fake attention seeking bitches.

But someone tell me what's the different between what I do with my body and what they do with theirs?  I'm not waiting…it's nothing.

It's all body modification, it's all done to make oneself happy, and it should all be accepted.

I'm slowly but surely moving away from the herd. Cool

We are all born a blank canvas, physically and mentally, It is up to us to decorate our mind and body.
July 14, 2012
5:41 pm
ColaChampagne
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Thinking about the thread now, I pretty sure this is better suited in the Experience section of the forum….soo ummmm…. could someone…do that…for me….please? :/

We are all born a blank canvas, physically and mentally, It is up to us to decorate our mind and body.
July 15, 2012
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The thread seems fine here tbh.

 

I have learned to understand how my body and mind relate, and how to influence one though the other.

I have learned about who i am and how i am the same as everyone whilst simultaneously unique.

I have learned patience not just in a practical sense, but in the concept of time, of a sense of the past, present and future being in some ways the same.

I know what my own tongue tastes like when over cooked!

 

I think that's a flavour, but not exhaustive….

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
July 15, 2012
2:12 pm
KristenAtkinson0
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I have learned many things. Piercing guns are awful, as are the minimum-wage junkies who are "trained" to use them. My earlobes would not be so bad now if not for them. Also, I have learned to get second opinions. This is a lesson hard-learned:

I talked to a piercer about fixing my lobes, since I was wanting to stretch them, but they were pierced unevenly(by the awful teenager with a piercing gun). SO, I went to a studio and talked with him, and he said that I should take one out, and come see him in a week. So I did. And then he told me all he would need to do is pierce above it, and it'd be evened out, and the original hole would close up. Unfortunately, this did not happen. So I had a bit of skin in between the two holes, and neither of them grew back in. I eventually had to get that scalpelled out. Now one of my earlobes is forever thin on the bottom, so in order to go larger, I have to get them scalpelled again.

I have learned to research not only the reputation of the shop, but the modification artist in the shop. 

I have learned to stop caring about what people think of me, and to let go of my own anxiety about looking modified. As much as we get comments and looks about the way we choose to look, I feel I have just as much anxiety within myself about the way I look. I haven't tattooed my arms(until recently) for that reason in particular. I love sleeves, but I couldn't commit to it yet. BUT, I have learned that it's a journey just like everything else in this lifestyle, and it all comes with time.

I have learned the value(and unfortunately consequence) of permanence. 

July 15, 2012
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*I have learned how important intentional breathing is.  When I am leading a modification, I remind people to breathe, and I like it when people remind me.  I like it even better when breath is synchronized either simultaneously or oppositional…. both feel great and help.

*I have learned to go ahead and ask the questions.  Before I let someone modify my body, I want to know at least a little about who you are and what has influenced you.  I like to ask who the person admires or considers a hero.

*I have learned I am attractive to people no matter how much I modify my physical form.  I am healthy and vibrant and people want to get close to me.  No matter how big the ring in my septum is, no matter how off the wall my hair is, no matter what we do to our bodies… if you are awesome people know it.

*I have learned my jewelry can be used as robot control buttons and can make me do all sorts of amazing Mom tasks.

*I have learned we can handle more physically and emotionally than we knew before. 

*I have learned to reject the Malthusian-Darwinian theory that I must justify my right to exist.  Simply enjoy life.  I don't have to give anyone a reason or explanation for choosing to modify or do the things I do.  Wondering is prohibitive to fruition and I feel like acceptance is VERY important and challenging for most people.

Everyone has something to say about the Mona Lisa until you're standing in front of it speechless.
July 19, 2012
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Amber Betts
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I've learned that I am stronger than I ever imagined!  That sometimes the healing is the hardest part. That even older people can be accepting of my mods. That I'm not a freak and I'm not alone.

August 1, 2012
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I have learn that people can be more understanding than i  thought, even if they dont feel the same about it, after sitting down and sharing my thoughts about mods most people understand where i am coming from and still hold there own views but they do not hate on my views.

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