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March 4, 2013
6:19 pm
Derita (:
North Carolina
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March 4, 2013

Here recently, my dad has grounded me, not from anything, BUT my piercings. He knows they are part of my identity and they make me feel like I AM somebody, the person I WANT to be. Without them I feel so plain and ugly.
After I applied here, i talked to him about it, he told me that piercings, tattoos or any mods could be affiliated with any type of spiritual guidance or emotions.
He thinks I'm just going through a phase, and I'm going to grow out of it, but I love my piercings and any body mods that I notice.

Anybody have any suggestions on how I can convince him otherwise?
Any opinion will help (: thank you

March 5, 2013
5:24 am
Forum Posts: 886
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January 7, 2011

They way to convince people otherwise is simply to walk the walk. Over time, if your beliefs continue, those close to you will begin to understand that maybe it's not just a phase. I don't think there's another way to do that i'm afraid!

I suggest a calm, reasonable and patient response. Understand why he may think that, and politely disagree, without arguing or getting upset, and recognising his right to have an opinion (but an actual say to a much lesser degree). That's all you need do. By understanding other's feelings and points of view, and where there feelings may come from, it makes it easier to communicate.
You will likely have to compromise due to your age, but in time that will reduce. In time you will be able to do as you please, and if you are serious about what you want, deferring that will be worth it in the long term.

In my experience parents don't ground children because they want to be unreasonable or upset their child. They are trying to help because they love their child. That doesn't mean that they don't get it wrong sometimes though!
You can also respectfully ask them to explain the decision or their fears for you. Maybe that might help improve communication. and mutual understanding.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
March 5, 2013
6:31 am
Derita (:
North Carolina
Senior Forum Member
Forum Posts: 22
Member Since:
March 4, 2013

Thank you, I will definitely try that when I get a chance to talk to him :)

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