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May 14, 2012
6:54 pm
UnholyResonance
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I definitely wish I had the support you had in tattooing.
My family is totally against any sort of modification outside of earlobe piercings and hair dying.
I guess it helped me get used to the criticism one gets for being modified though.
Not sure how to look at it, really.

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May 15, 2012
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Welcome DestinyAmending! Thanks for sharing.Cool

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
May 16, 2012
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i really don't think that a lot of people our age really gets looked down upon seeing as now it's so damn scene. i can understand the sob stories of parents, but idk why people keep pretending like people everywhere are like "oh, my god" i don't buy into that for a second.  employers and old people, yes. our age? mostly not.

 

my "father" is the member of a biker gang and was the vice president for a group called the abate. which was the founding fathers for hells angels. i just grew up around it. it wasn't anything unusual to see all types of extreme things in my house hold. i was just always drawn to it.

May 16, 2012
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and now i realize i already posted in this lmao. sorry. i forgot. =P

May 16, 2012
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Well Indi, I'm actually still in classes and unfortunately any sort of modification here is prohibited, Sadly. I'm the most pierced and tattoo'ed on my campus. It's ridiculous how narrow minded the people are here. I can't tell you how many people (16+) comment about how "disgusting", "unattractive", and "nasty" my piercings and what not are. Sometimes it gets to the point where I have to go to the gym and box it out, it irritates me more than anything. It might be because I am in central Texas, but here at least, I know people will spout out their opinions on my appearance like it's nothing. The funny thing is Austin is only an hour away, and they have some HEAVILY modified people. I love driving up there and seeing people with the same interests as I. A refreshment from this dirt town. And I'm sorry to hear that UnholyResonance, My family doesn't understand a lot of what I do, but they've always been supportive. With the few snide comments here and there, but growing up in a house hold like that must have been difficult.  

May 17, 2012
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indi
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i was getting ready to say, i've known some people from Texas for quite a while and there is a lot of trends going on for modification there. and i remember going through a big part of Texas and staying for a while and seeing things i had never seen at age 9 which was weird given my family history.

 

what part of Texas do you live in exactly?

i didn't mean everywhere i just mean most places.

i lived in a town with less than 500 people attending middle school and high school together. iggy has been there. and i only got bashing for mine for like 13 to 16 even there everyone is changing as the trend becomes larger.

i didn't mean it towards literally you, but more so of a general, but i'm sorry you took it that way. i guess it kinda looks that way as mine is close to yours

someone took something i've said recently towards them completely when it stated so many in a general thing and was just trying to express my feelings about it. and just because my opinion wasn't what everyone wanted to hear…we couldn't discuss it even though it is a forum….for discussion…about our opinions…..which is highly contradictory to me. (and i'm sure i'll get something for this one too, but that's okay because i'm still gonna have my opinion just like you're still gonna have your modifications) fighting to state my opinion is just like fighting for the right to your modification so it was kinda silly to me, but it doesn't change anything.

maybe it's just the way i talk. i'm sorry, miss.

i hear people where i'm living complain about it and it's actually not rare around here at all even the old people here will stop and ask questions about it. i had like a 70 year old lady tell me my purple and green hair was awesome and that the holes in my ears were interesting. a lady in her 50s at my fiances job asked him how he did it to his ears and she literally said that it was dandy, but she didn't like pain. and people from huge cities complain about it a lot…so it's kinda like…

ya know?

that's more of what i was aiming for.

May 18, 2012
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DestinyAmending
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Haha, Indi. It's totally fine! I didn't take offense to it, I'm one to speak my mind also, so I know how it is. 

I live in a dirt town close to Fort Hood called Belton, Haha. It's right next to Temple.

Modification is spreading, and I'm enthralled so many people are taking interest in it. I know what you mean! I had a photographer tell me she adored me. She was an older lady, but she said I was just a doll. Made my day. 

Well, Austin is one of my favorite cities in America. The diversity and acceptance there is beyond belief, not to mention it's a beautiful city. 

May 18, 2012
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i haven't heard of that town at all =P

awe, she sounds sweet :)

i like the people who are doing it out of seriousness….not a trend. i mean to each their own, but it's an insult to me cause i don't see how a stupid trend could define something so.

i'm happy for you that you get to live so close to a place that improves your mood.

everyone needs that somewhere in their life.

May 19, 2012
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DestinyAmending
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Yeah, Let's just say you can spit and it'll cross over the entire town.

She truly was, I love when people are so open about things like that.

Exactly! The people who are doing it for reasons other than "it looks cute." or "well so and so celebrity has it" Damn, that gets on my nerves.

Yes, It's a beautiful city. I wish there were more like it around.

May 22, 2012
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"When?" … I would have to say sometime between 1975 and 1977 (age 12 – 14)

 

"Was for you": This brings up an interesting point … I have known many people who modify not really for themselves … but for the reaction they get from others … I admit I have been guilty of this … but for the most part … I have done them for 'me' to mark milestones

- Kevin Cook Proudly modified since 1983
May 23, 2012
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My first tattoo was had some meaning.  It was a symbol of membership in…not a gang, exactly, but a group of friends who look out for each other and stand up for each other.  I know that sounds like a gang, but we never claimed territory, spray painted our names on stuff, or engaged in illegal activities for financial gain, so I don't consider it a gang.  It was given to me by my former best friend, and I gave him a very similar tattoo.

My next three tattoos had no meaning whatsoever, but for that friend of mine, every tattoo he was getting was personally significant.  It was then that I started looking at my tattoos and feeling a sense of waste; that I had wasted my the space and I should have done something more thoughtful.

I don't regret these tattoos.  One of them does have a significance that I don't fully understand, except on a spiritual level.  However, I started to see the importance of tattooing myself with things that were important to me.

Since that time (around 21 years of age) I have got two other tattoos that I just thought looked great, but intend to lighten and cover them.  After getting those two, I decided once and for all that no other modification I ever got would be simply for aesthetic value.  All the rest of my mods are directly related to a personal experience, or my philosophy/spirituality.  Even the mods that are not symbols, such as my piercings and my moxibustion brand (a series of dots) have a meaning that I can't really express with words.

But that's not the important part anyway, is it?  It doesn't matter so much that I should be able to put it into words.  All that matters is that I feel the significance within me.  I know it on a level that is not exactly physical, so that's good enough for me.

 

"It's not a choice."

I couldn't agree with that more.  I said the very same thing to a Christian who was asking why I do what I do.  I simply do not feel complete without my ink, my scars, and my jewelry.  And getting more of those is only going to make me feel more complete.

Okay…so the short answer to the question:  When I was 21.

Sometimes I wonder if I can say anything in less than a hundred words.
July 7, 2012
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Around 11 or 12. That was just for ear piercings, and i only did it because I liked the jewelry and I wanted to wear the jewelry. Got that with a gun (fail)

I wanted more ear piercings in later years because my friend had them…and I was a follower at the time so i wanted them tooo. At one point I had the whole sides of my ears (helix and all) shot up with a gun (super duper mega fail)

I guess the piercings I had made me a happier person, the pain was kinda fun too, I like the feeling of going through all that pain (at least what I thought was pain back then) to be able to accomplish something, was awesome for me. It was the only pain I was willing to go through, because it led to something beautiful.

 

The first time a piercing REALLY meant something to me was when I got my septum piercing. A couple months before hand I actually learned what bullfighting REALLY was. And I'm sure you have all seen the picture of that matador who had the bull horn rammed into his throat (standing ovation anyone?), my septum piercing was basically homage to that bull…it also made sense because my parents were against any piercing besides the ear lobe. My mom tried to drill into my head to NEVER EVER get a nose piercing… she did not say anything about a septum piercing though *insert troll face here*.

Also through that time I was doing research on my culture, and my distant African ancestry and where I originally come from, our cultures and our customs and what was considered beautiful in Africa. You know, the stuff about Africa that is never taught in school. I learned about the beauty standards in Africa, and compared to the beauty standards, I'll take the ones from Africa thank you very much.

I found a connection to myself in Africa that I could never ever fathom of finding here…in the United States. I never liked this society and what it stood for, and what was considered beautiful, because basically my face wasn't in the equation. Now when I saw Africa I don't mean colonized places like South Africa, I mean African TRIBES, like the Himba the Mursi and the Ashanti tribes, that was connection that I felt, I was closer to them than I was to all the superficial, judgmental, stuck up people of the United states, Africa was where I belonged. From then on, anything I did to my body, I took inspiration from the African tribes, nothing else. Now don't get me wrong I like technology, to a certain extent (until it just becomes ridiculous and lazy). But the United states culture, the way of thinking, was something I could not, and did not want to relate to… I wanted to think for myself, I did not want to become a sheep, or a robot of this society. Basically I found beauty in originality. It's also a form of therapy for me, and it helps me balance  the "Feng Shui" in my body, based on the piercings that I have. Currently I'm a little off balance and not feeling right because my lip piercing died about a  year ago, but I'm getting it back next month, and I'm going to feel a little closer to being complete.

I also planned on stretching my ears. Now this reasoning was a little vain because I was watching Pauly Unstoppable's video on youtube on his jewelry, and they were so beautiful and I was so inspired and it just clicked in my head. Now I cant explain how it happened, but I'm a  very intuitous (is that a word? spell check is telling me otherwise) person and my intuition controls the every day actions that affect my life. Let's just say that, if I don't follow my intuition I'm in very deep shit. It's like my subconscious mind talks to me and helps me navigate my life. but anyways,  I saw the jewelry and I knew that is what I wanted for myself, so I'm planning on doing it…

Sooo umm yea I hope you enjoyed my essay!!!! Funny how I can just write an essay randomly but when it comes to writing one for school it takes me YEARS…. -______-

but yea ummm…that was when I knew. :P

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July 8, 2012
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I always like reading these. I'm glad people are happy to share something so personal.

Thanks everyone!Smile

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
July 10, 2012
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I knew I'd always want tattoos ever since I was old enough to understand why my dad had pictures all over his arms and no one else did, unfortunately growing up in a little village and going to a grammar school I had only been able to pierce my ears and never met anyone else with body mods until I went into the city, and upon getting my first tattoo I've been hooked ever since writing down my life's story on my skin, well when I have the money for it!

July 10, 2012
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Hi mowens, thanks for sharing and welcome to the forum. Nice to have another Brit around!

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
January 16, 2013
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Body modification is really the only way I can express myself and be different at the same time. I am a strong individual and have always steered (spell check) away from the crowd. Now I am only 17, but I know modifying myself is going to be an experience that I want to, well, experience haha. When I see people getting suspended or something I feel like that can be me. This makes me feel like I can do anything; like it can make my life easier to live. And I am not a depressed child. I don't hate my life. I just think that you have to go thru pain to better endure the pain that life brings you.

January 16, 2013
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Hi Duke of LoL, welcome to the forum!

You put your feelings very eloquently.
I am unsure whether we NEED to experience pain to learn to endure it, although of course that is often the way we learn. For me it's more about understanding yourself and your own reactions, and learning to see the world more clearly as a result. Of course modification can provide both these things!

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Nietzsche
January 17, 2013
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Pain can also be a way to solve problems. I've noticed that if I get modified (even if it's self scarification or self blood play) while pondering an issue then I'll come out with the answer at the end of the procedure or during the healing period pain. Oh and don't forget, all the fun natural highs that bring you to bliss, which often can be the precursor to a vision/epiphany/message/solution. ;)

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February 4, 2013
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I grew up in a fairly mod-less home, but at the same time, that home was in New York City. You can't really live life in NYC without at least a minimal sense of tolerance for the "abnormal" and though I didn't have more than one set of ear lobes until I was 16, I knew what I wanted for myself the first time I walked down St. Mark's and saw the possibilities lying before me. I used to use the backs of my hands as pin cushions when I sewed, and I used the same needles to break just the first few layers of skin (not quite enough to draw blood) to draw mandalas into my thighs. I loved the idea of almost every piercing I saw, and though some of mine don't have a specific meaning or ritual accompanying them, I've yet to (and won't) get pierced without feeling the "itch" of longing for something I felt was missing from my body.

March 19, 2013
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Seeing as though I am only 17 at the moment, I have known for a while. When I was about six years old I noticed my mothers tongue ring, and I decided then I wanted my tongue pierced(at 13 I got it done, been almost 5 years since) When I was about 8 I noticed some of my family members tattoos and how beautiful they were, so I thought about what I would want, since I'm not 18 yet, I can't get one…yet.

So now, at 17, I have 7 body piercings, and wanting more. No tattoos and wanting many.

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