Plastic Surgery | General Discussion | Forum
April 3, 2012
I am looking for advice about a touch choice I have been faced with. I will be completely honest, I am 16 and looking into plastic surgery. When I was 12 I battled with an eating disorder that wound me up going to therapy sessions both group and individual along with rehabilitation treatment. It also put a complete halt on my growth. I have spoken with my doctors and while I was tall for my age back then, I have not grown a single quarter of an inch since then. I am so tired of being teased and taunted because of my breasts. Its so painful to feel the way I do because I truely feel worse now than I did when I was battling my eating disorder. I have been talking to my mom about ways to help remedy the problem, and it feels like I have tried so many things that havent worked. I have tried pills, massages, gaining more weight when I am at the ideal weight for my size alredy, pushup bras, etc. Pushup bras make my shape better with clothes on but obviously you don't wear clothes in the shower. My mom brought up the idea of a breast augmentation to a more fitting size for my body. I would love some understanding advice as to what I should do or if anyone has any other ideas I am very open to them.
October 3, 2011
i think you should stop letting other peoples words affect you i to have struggled with eating disorders witch i think is harder seeing how im a boy so its not as talked about as female eating disorders so i had to deal with it on my own its still something i deal with on a daily bases but before you go through something like breast implants ask yourself who am i doing this for is it to make others happy or is it to make me happy cause the only persons opinion that should matter to you is yours dont let other kids taunt you into doing something thats not right for you cause at your age thats what happens kids talk shit for no real reason other than to look cool amongst other kids i dont think you should jump into something like this without really thinking about whats right for you plus theres other aspects of implants that you should think about i no a few girls with them and you end up with a scar from where they inserted the implant i also had a friend who got some cause her husband wanted her to and the ended up very hard and not realistic looking at all and shortly after she had to go get them removed mostly just keep asking your self who am i doing this for and is this really something that i want
I agree with Strommer in that you should not allow other people to tell you who you should be. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to let go of your insecurities. Especially in regards to what other people think of you. They're not the ones who have to live your life in your skin. It's up to you to decide who you are and how you should look.
Popular culture has a certain image that women think they need to achieve before they are beautiful, but I can tell you (and my girlfriend agrees wholeheartedly) that this image is a bunch of crap.
Sure, those women look good, but women of all kinds look good, and different men are going to prefer a different type.
As my girlfriend told me, "You line up 10 different beautiful women and ask 10 different men to pick their favorite, and you'll get 10 different answers." The fact is, the so-called "standard" of beauty is just the opinion of a few powerful people in the fashion industry. Some men like women who have small boobs and a small butt. Some men like the opposite. Some men like skinny women, some men like them big. No matter what you look like, someone out there will love you for who you are. You just need to find that person.
Aside from that, anyone who is willing to make fun of you for this or any other reason is clearly not your friend, so don't worry about pleasing those shallow jerks.
Also, I once saw a documentary about women who were looking to have their breasts either augmented because they were small, or reduced because the were large.
The women whose breasts were small said they would like to have more attention from men. The women whose breasts were large said they would like a little less attention from men because they felt the size of their breasts was the only reason men were interested in them. As my girlfriend just told me, "Do you want people talking to you, or to your boobs?"
But there were more reasons as well. Women with large breasts very often experience back, shoulder, and neck pain because of the weight of their breasts. This can lead to vicious headaches and other health issues.
I believe part of what you're going through is a case of the grass always being greener on the other side of the fence. True, if you had larger boobs people wouldn't make fun of you for having small boobs, but with larger breasts, women might be viciously jealous and hateful, and men might only be interested in you for your boobs.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, there's no way to stop people from treating you like crap for one reason or another. Crappy people will always find an excuse to be crappy. Your friends are the ones who accept you for who you are, support you in your own personal growth, and try to protect you from danger and folly. Those are the important people in your life, and you won't need to try to please them.
And aside from all of that, there is more to consider.
My current girlfriend has fake boobs, and she has told me that breast augmentation is quite an ordeal. It takes months for your body to heal up and adjust to the implants before the pain and discomfort goes away.
She found that she had to sleep sitting up for the first few months because her skin was already stretched very tightly, and when lying down, the new boobs would fall off to the sides and stretch her skin even more…very painful.
She had always slept on her stomach, but to this day she can no longer get comfortable on her stomach, so she sometimes suffers from sleepless nights, tossing and turning to find a comfortable position.
She now suffers from upper-back, shoulder, and neck pain because of the weight of her breasts, which sometimes leads to migraine headaches.
Your nipples could lose most or all of their sensitivity.
Also, my girlfriend told me that she never knew this until she had her boobs done, but it turns out that the larger your breasts are, the dumber men assume you are. I can tell you that I have never seen it this way, so it's not all of us that will treat you like you're stupid, but apparently some (even many) of us probably will.
My girlfriend got her boobs done when she was in her mid/late 40's. She was done having children and she wanted to repair the sagging that having children and breast feeding inevitably causes. If you get your boobs done now, before having children, your boobs could still wind up sagging and misshapen, and then you might need to do it all over again.
The bottom line is this: You only need to please yourself. Don't change one tiny little thing about yourself unless it's something that you want to do for your own fulfillment. Take your time thinking about this. Talk to as many women who have done it as you can and get as much information about it as you can. I think the most important question you should ask these women is, "If you could go back and make that decision again, would you still do it?"
Special thanks to my girlfriend Dee, for her input on this post. Good luck to you, Miss (not a) Monster.
March 2, 2011
Breasts? What are breasts?
A confident smile catches my eye 10 out of 10 times – I agree with Strommer.
Are there things I feel I would look better with that I don't have? Sure – my mouth is tiny. And when I mean tiny I mean that if I purse my lips I don't have a mouth that's visible anymore. My snakebites are pierced just inside the end of my bottom lip and the distance between them is just over the distance from the tip of my pointer to first knuckle. And my hands are small.
Girl hands. Sure, it helps me with doing tricky piercing procedures, but you know what they say about guys and the size of their hands. Hahaha. On the bright side, no one at my shop can steal my gloves because they can't fit their normal man hands in them.
We've all got something we don't like about ourselves. I choose to rock the shit out of mine.
January 24, 2012
i agree with most on here. you should let go of other human thoughts…if you're happy with yourself, then forget the fools that are even stupid enough to believe their opinion matters in comparison to your love for yourself.
if you're unhappy…try to love yourself for the way you are. you are you. it's you that carries you through all your struggles, it's you that ultimately decides how you live at the end of each day. you. you can never betray you, or leave you behind. you can make some bad choices for yourself, but you are the only one who can truly save you. you have to be willing at least.
if this is something you want because you are unhappy with you after you've tried to love who you are and feel this is something you'll never get over…go for it.
if you feel you can be strong enough to love yourself no matter what other idiots think who aren't worth your time because they obviously haven't learned anything about life yet then i honestly think it would be weak and a pathetic decision to make because of others. i used to have an eating disorder because of my father, but i realized he even being my father was just a step i had to walk over to get to be who i was in my life.
April 3, 2012
K first and foremost i want to say that besides the usual concerns of being a minor and the confines of the law. I will not even perform a nipple piercing on a minor whether male or female until they are at least 18. The reason is becuase even at 16-17 threnody is still in very pubesant stage. Specially females are still very much developing in that area and anotomical is consistent to change. With that being said I would encourage you to wait till all least 18. Secondly like most said to hell with what others think. I constantly get crap for both mods I've chose and features or characteristics I haven't. If you feel you would be more complete with bigger breasts then go for it, but only for yourself not the gratification of others.
January 7, 2011
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